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Thoughts about Prayers

Listening to the current national conversation, one might believe our only two options for managing a public health crisis are either to follow the advice of medical experts or to “pray about it.” Aside from the latter choice being misguided and possibly deadly, it also suggests that prayer must be done in isolation from other action. I would suggest that those who believe in praying can offer their heavenly petitions while keeping their distance from others, wearing their masks, and washing their hands. It doesn’t have to be an either-or.

Most of the atheists I’ve known have at some point made a statement similar to this one: “I just don’t believe in some great fairy in the sky.” Well, I am a theist, not an atheist, and I also do not believe in some great fairy who rules the universe with a magic wand. The space here does not allow a theological treatise on God’s nature; and even if it did, I’d be ill equipped to lead that study. However, since one’s approach to prayer is determined by one’s concept of God, it might be helpful to look at the source which many of those who have opted to “just pray about it” claim as their inspiration: the Christian Bible.

I’m a writer and retired English professor, not a theologian, and I don’t want anyone to think I’m launching into a sermon. But since “thoughts and prayers” is one of our current cultural clichés, I decided to do a bit of digging to see what prayer really is and how it’s recorded in religious texts, the Bible in particular. Here are a few of the things I learned.

Prayer is mentioned hundreds of times, and hundreds of individual prayers are recorded in the Bible. Prayers fall into several categories: worship, peace and comfort, confession/repentance, forgiveness, and petition. (Remember, I’m not a theologian, so I don’t claim my lists are exhaustive.)

I’m as confused as anyone else by some of the prayers and the concept of God recorded in the Old Testament. Asking God to destroy whole civilizations, including every man, woman, child, animal, and cockroach evokes a concept of God which is a bit scary; so if it’s okay with you, I’ll stick mostly to the New Testament.

What I find in the New Testament prayers is not humans abdicating their own responsibility but humans asking God to empower them with the strength, boldness, endurance, and wisdom to carry out those responsibilities. Those who pray for God to end a deadly virus while they continue on in their normal routines are abdicating their own responsibilities and evoking the “great fairy” image of a God who might, with a wave of the magic wand, rid the world of a disease. Those who choose praying about gun violence, while stockpiling munitions and voting for lawmakers who allow such stockpiling, abdicate their human responsibility to guard the social welfare and expect God to save people’s lives. Those who admonish us to pray for our “president” while they vote for those who enable his corruption abdicate their human responsibility to elect responsible lawmakers and expect God to change someone who doesn’t want to be changed. It doesn’t work that way.

Although Philippians 4:13 is not a prayer, it seems a good place to start: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” I start here because I think this verse suggests a divine-human partnership in which the human is committed to right actions and the divine is the source when enables the human to carry out those actions when they are in accordance with divine principles. Such requests as “help our team win” may not exactly meet the requirement of aligning with divine principles. Just saying.

Romans 8:26–“Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we ought . . .”–reinforces the idea that God strengthens humans to do good works but does not promise to clean up the damage when humans act in their own selfish interests.

Borrowing just one example from the Old Testament, remember the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. In the book of Genesis, Abraham negotiates with God to spare Sodom from destruction brought on by the corruption that has engulfed the city. God’s response is that God will spare the city if Abraham can find a particular number of righteous people. The number continues to decrease until God finally says, “Okay, warn your nephew Lot to take his family and leave, and then I’ll do the job.” The story gets a lot creepier after that, but the point I’d like to make here is that God is unwilling to take action without some human cooperation. God is not our fixer.

The Lord’s Prayer, sometimes called the Model Prayer, suggests the same spirit of human-divine cooperation: “Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.” There are no freebies here; those who want God to do God’s part must first be willing to do their own part.

In Jesus’ well-known prayer in the Garden of Gethsemane, just before his arrest, Jesus prays: “My father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from me; yet not what I want but what you want” (Matthew 26:39). Even Jesus knows it’s not all about him and his freedom to do as he wishes while God takes care of the business of running the world. Jesus makes himself a willing participant, knowing the grave suffering he is about to face.  

Some people today seem to view God as the Michael Cohen in the sky, the fixer who will clean up human messes without our having any responsibility to help. I don’t believe it works that way. I believe if prayer is to have any effect at all, it must be active, not passive. Prayers recorded in the Bible are answered or unanswered depending on the degree to which they align with what is already known of God and God’s plan. The person praying is asking to be equipped for his/her personal mission. I agree with the adage, “Put feet under your prayers.” To put it another way, pray on your feet, not your butt.

Sending “thoughts and prayers” to families torn apart by gun violence or police overreach, while opposing any action that might reduce further incidents of carnage, is an insult to those families and makes a mockery of human communication with the divine. I’ve read numerous comments from finger- waggers on social media admonishing those who oppose the current corruption in our government to just shut up and pray about it. “Pray for our ‘president’; don’t point out his incompetence and criminality.” Am I allowed to do both?

Those who believe in prayer should by all means keep praying. Our nation needs all the help it can get to climb out of this mess, and seeking guidance and strength from the Almighty seems a good place to start but not to end. My mother often told me “God helps those who help themselves.” It’s our job to make this nation what it should be: yours and mine. Some may believe God has a part in it; I believe that. But I don’t believe God will take the wreck we’ve made and put all the pieces back together while we continue to do things which exacerbate the problem. We have to help ourselves if we expect God to help us.

Here’s my prayer for the day. (Just to be clear, I don’t own a hunting rifle.)

Now I kneel me down to pray,

A bottle of hand sanitizer a few inches away.

A mask is nearby, on demand

In case a non-family member is close at hand.

My hunting rifle is locked away in its case

And an assault rifle would be out of place.

I’ve written my senators and my rep

Encouraging them to stay in step.

I’ve done what Jesus said to do:

Love my God and love all of you.

I didn’t vote for Donald Trump

Because I’m not a big dumb lump.

My mail-in ballot is ready to go,

With votes for all of the candidates who show

Integrity and an ounce of wit,

Who know how to get us out of this shit.

I’ve tried my best to do my part.

Now I ask you, God, to strengthen my heart

To continue the fight for right and good,

And to keep doing all I should.

Our country’s in a great big mess,

So we ask you all of our hearts to bless.

Amen

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Living in Responsibility

Americans love to talk and sing about their freedom. Two days ago, we indulged in our annual orgy of wearing red-white-blue outfits, shooting off fireworks, and smugly proclaiming “’Merica!” Amid all of the hype, what gets lost is that we as a nation have achieved freedom for some by stripping it from others. The elephant in the room is the fact that we have built an empire on stolen land and used stolen humans to help with the construction.

What also gets lost in the hype is the balance between freedom and responsibility. I have recently made a long-distance move and have become an apartment dweller for the first time in many decades, so I’m learning a lot about freedom and responsibility. I have the freedom and the right to play my TV set any time of the day or night at whatever volume I choose, but I have the responsibility to be courteous to my neighbors and give them the freedom to listen to their own TV programs, not mine. Since I now live in a state where recreational marijuana use is legal, our community standards respect the right of residents to smoke pot but ask that they take the responsibility to be considerate of neighbors who may be sensitive to the smoke. (I don’t smoke.) I collect the leaves that I sweep off my deck in a dustpan and dispose of them in my trash rather than sweeping them off the edge, because they would litter the patio of the neighbor whose apartment is below mine.

The U.S. response to the coronavirus has been inept to say the least and a national disgrace to be more accurate. The current dearth of intelligent, responsible leadership is the leading cause of our failure to flatten the curve, but close behind is the mass of freedom-loving Americans who never got the memo that freedom is balanced by responsibility. Then throw in the twisted thinking of the loudly vocal evangelical faction who love to sprinkle their conversations with cherry-picked Bible phrases, and you have a pretty good picture of how we got where we are.

I’ve reached the point where if I hear one more person say wearing a mask or social distancing constitutes “living in fear,” I’m sure my response will not be very Christian. It’s true that the expressions “fear not” and “do not fear” appear often in the Christian Bible as God assures humans God has their backs and they can rely on God’s love. II Timothy 1:7 is often cherry-picked and referenced: “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” Okay, let’s think about that.

First, the word “fear” has a broad range of meanings; all fears are not the same. Fearing God doesn’t mean being terrified of God; it means holding God in awe and reverence. Phobias are irrational fears. I’m claustrophobic, and I could not rationally explain to you why being in a closed space–or even thinking about being in a closed space–sends my blood pressure soaring, starts my stomach churning, and makes my skin crawl and almost break a sweat; but that’s what happens. There’s a whole list of things people fear with no rational explanation.

Fear of death is one which nearly all humans share. Even those who don’t fear a dark afterlife have some qualms about how their deaths will occur, whether they’ll suffer at the end, and other understandable concerns. Fear of public speaking has sometimes been ranked even higher in prevalence than the fear of death, because we all share the dread of looking foolish and sounding stupid.

Then there are what I would call healthy or survival fears, those which contribute to our longevity. I fear walking or driving too close to the edge of a precipice; I’ll never be one of those who die by falling off a cliff while trying to capture the perfect selfie to post on social media. I live very close to several freeways; I’m careful what times of day I venture onto them in my car, and on no day will you find me walking across them. Why? Because I fear being flattened by a fast-moving vehicle. Whenever possible, I try to stay away from sick people, and it didn’t take a pandemic to make me wash my hands frequently. I do these things because I fear being sick. These survival fears cause me to use caution and take responsibility for my own well-being.

“A spirit of fear” is, I think, different from any of the types of fears I’ve mentioned; and I agree it’s unhealthy. A spirit of fear is what psychologists might call paranoia: “a tendency on the part of an individual or group toward excessive or irrational suspiciousness and distrustfulness of others” (Merriam-Webster online dictionary). Although we toss this word around casually and humorously to designate some things to which we are hyper-alert, paranoia is a serious mental disorder. It can be an aspect of drug abuse or of a mental illness such as CPD (chronic personality disorder) or schizophrenia.

I believe we can all agree that living in a “spirit of fear” is unhealthy, regardless of one’s religious persuasions. However, using reasonable caution and taking responsibility do not in any way equate to “living in fear.”

Dr. Robert R. Redfield, director of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) is referenced in an article by CNN’s Holly Yan: “But the CDC director said everyone can help stop this deadly pandemic. It just takes personal responsibility.”

And that brings us back to where I started: remembering that our freedom demands responsibility. Henry David Thoreau begins his famous 1849 essay “Civil Disobedience” with these statements: “I heartily accept the motto, ‘That government is best which governs least’; and I should like to see it acted up to more rapidly and systematically. Carried out, it finally amounts to this, which also I believe- ‘That government is best which governs not at all’; and when men are prepared for it, that will be the kind of government which they will have.”

This is one of the clearest arguments for personal responsibility I’ve ever read. He agrees with the adage that what we would call small government is preferable to the alternative of big government, then takes it a step further by saying his first choice would be no government at all. He’s not advocating anarchy, however; he’s saying a responsible citizenry doesn’t need laws to make them behave ethically. The caveat for having no government is learning to govern ourselves, to take responsibility for our own actions and their consequences.

I’ve been wearing a mask in public for several months, even before masking up became state law in Washington. In spite of the state mandate, I still pass people in the grocery store who smugly stroll the aisles unmasked. I haven’t asked any of them to explain their reasons, because that’s not my place; but I’d wager at least a few of them are in the group who see a requirement to mask up as an infringement on their personal freedom. This is another group that makes me want to scream, but I digress.

When one claims one’s rights have been infringed on, that person ought to be able to clearly name the specific right that’s being violated. Perhaps someone can help me out here: exactly what freedom do I as a U.S. citizen have that is taken away by my being required to wear a mask? I’m stumped. But I’m reminded of a saying I heard often when I was growing up: “Your freedom to swing your arm ends where my nose begins.”

That’s a folksy way of saying none of us has unbounded freedom. In fact, we’d all do well to remember that our laws enumerate far more things which we do not have the freedom to do than rights which we are at liberty to exercise. It’s illegal to shout “Fire!” in a crowded place unless the shouter has actually seen flames or other evidence of a real fire. It’s illegal to park my car in a spot reserved for people with disabilities. It’s illegal to have sex with someone without first securing that person’s consent to be a willing partner. And the other prohibitions which govern our daily interactions fill volumes.

Then there’s the list of mandated actions meant to protect ourselves and others. I can’t legally drive my car or ride in someone else’s car without wearing a seatbelt. Parents can’t legally transport their young children without adhering to very detailed instructions on how those children must be secured in the vehicle. In some states, helmets are required by those who ride bicycles and motorcycles.

Every law on that last list has also been hotly contested and disobeyed, just as the mask law is now, because “freedom.” It took “Click it or ticket” to get many people to comply with the seatbelt law, and of course the persistent beepers on newer cars have also been quite persuasive in making people buckle up just to stop the noise. Hospitals have gotten involved in making sure parents own and know how to use car seats for their infants by refusing to discharge a mother and baby until the baby has been properly restrained in the right kind of seat. So obviously the mask law is not the first to draw the ire and defiance of liberty-loving Americans, but it is perhaps the one for which disobedience has the most widespread consequences.

Refusing to wear my seatbelt might place me at greater risk for injury or even death when involved in an accident, and refusing to wear a helmet might cause my own head to be severely injured were it to crash to the pavement. Those are serious consequences for defying laws requiring simple actions, but they affect a small circle of people: myself, my family, and whatever medical professionals are required to assist me. Refusing to wear a mask, however, has the potential to affect the dozens of people I pass in a store, plus their close family members and associates (some of whom may be in high-risk categories), and to place an additional strain on medical resources necessary for those people’s treatment. That one little pebble can cause a wide circle of ripples.

Our current national leadership is ignorant and divisive. They’ve chosen to politicize a public health crisis rather than create a coordinated system for effectively slowing down and eventually ending it. Our governors are overwhelmed by the enormity of the decisions and responsibility not normally delegated to them and besieged by those in rebellion against their attempts to carry out their duties. That leaves you and me. It’s on us. Those of us who wish to retain our cherished freedom have to grow up and take the responsibility to govern ourselves and to willingly follow reasonable guidelines for protecting ourselves and others. The downfall of democracy is that, as a friend recently put it, “ignorance and misinformation are given the same weight” as expert and informed data.

One of the individual responsibilities that fall to us right now is the decision of whom to believe. Such statements as “we have so many cases because we’re doing so much testing” are too plainly stupid to merit a rational response. By that line of thinking, I guess the way to reduce teen pregnancies is to ban pregnancy tests. As we hear so often these days, “You can’t fix stupid,” but you can learn to ignore it and not allow your own decisions to be guided by it. It’s true that there’s lots of conflicting information and a wide range of proposed solutions to this crisis; and yes, the experts sometimes change their positions and recommendations. But so what? COVID-19 was identified in 2019. Cancer has plagued humanity for decades at least, yet the information and recommended treatments continue to vary and conflict as new research becomes available.

The first step to “flattening the curve” and eventually doing away with this plague is to act not as Democrats and Republicans or liberals and conservatives but as human beings who live in a close network where individual survival depends on herd responsibility, not herd immunity. To achieve the 70% to 90% immunity rate required to reach the level of herd immunity, several hundreds of thousands more people would have to die. If we instead work toward herd responsibility, we can save lives and become a better, more evolved group of humans.

Keeping our distance from people during this time is not living in fear. Wearing a mask in public is not living in fear. Staying home when going out is not necessary is not living in fear. Washing our hands often is not living in fear. Doing those things is living in intelligence, reasonable caution, and personal responsibility; and those are the qualities that will save our lives and our nation.

Want to be patriotic? Stop whining and wear the damn mask!