The grave danger in a period of rapid change, like the last six months, is that the new look of things may become normal. In Washington Irving’s famous story “Rip Van Winkle,” the quirky protagonist falls asleep in the mountains and sleeps through the whole American Revolution. When he awakes and walks back into town, he is shocked at the changes which have occurred. Nothing is familiar; nothing makes sense. Yet to those who have been there every day, the new reality is normal; it makes perfect sense. Remember back in 2016 when Marco Rubio famously asked the question, “Can this country afford to have a president under investigation by the FBI? Think of the trauma that would do to this country.” Well, now we have one, and lots of people are treating the situation as nothing to get excited about. The once unthinkable is now normal. A few years back, some home owners on my street painted their house such a god-awful color that the first time I saw it, I nearly wrecked my car from craning my neck and dropping my jaw. Now I don’t even see that house as I drive by. New fashion trends can be startling at first, but within a short time, they look perfectly normal and the styles they replaced look weird and dated.
Since January 20, 2017, things once shocking have become normal and to a large group of Americans even acceptable and desirable. What was once a game-changing scandal is now just a bad news day. A mere eight months ago, the thought of having a president under FBI investigation was widely seen as a disqualifier; now it’s a “meh.” Intelligent people agree that DJT must be removed from the office of president, yet that alone does not guarantee the restoration of that office to the level of respect it has always commanded. It doesn’t automatically return our country and its president to leader of the free world. The damage done to our country and our presidency will outlive Donald Trump. The day he leaves office—whether by impeachment, by the invoking of the 25th amendment, or by (loud groan!) the expiration of his term—will be a day of celebration but not a day to declare victory. Removing the cause is the first step; restoring the norms will be the harder battle.
Let’s look at how our perception of normal has changed these last 6 months.
- What’s the first word that comes to mind when you hear the name Donald Trump? Is it “lies”? If so, you’d be among a majority of people not only in this country but throughout the world who have been stunned by the level of dishonesty coming from our White House. When was the last time a major newspaper compiled a list of a president’s lies since taking office (only 6 months ago) and the list filled a whole page? Um, I believe the answer to that question would be NEVER. Yet the New York Times marked 45’s 6-month anniversary by publishing the lengthy article titled “Trump’s Lies.” When Bill Clinton looked into the TV cameras and declared “I did not have sexual relations with that woman” and we later learned that he did in fact have sexual relations with Monica Lewinsky, the outrage was outrageous. Most people forgave his marital infidelity long before they forgave him for lying to the American public—if they ever forgave him for lying to them. Now we have a “president” who lies every day, and everyone knows he’s lying; but now instead of demanding his head on a platter, we spend our time psychoanalyzing him, and reputable publications face moral dilemmas about what to call the lies. It doesn’t feel right to publicly call a statement from the president by the name it deserves, a LIE; so editors agonize over what might be a more acceptable term. Some have found “falsehoods” more palatable; others have opted for “contradictory claims,” “misleading statements,” and others. Kellyanne Conway suggested “alternative facts.” But as Shakespeare said, “A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” And a lie by any other name would still stink.
- The reluctance of the press to use the L-word when referring to a statement by the President of the United States stems, I believe, from the general disconnect that currently exists between our cultural image of presidential conduct and what we see daily taking place in this White House. Most of us have been taught that even when we find it difficult to respect a particular president, we must still respect the office. The POTUS is both our national leader and, at least during our lifetimes, the leader of the free world. Even when the person who holds that office espouses policies with which we disagree or is known to have a few private bad habits or indiscretions, we reverence the office which our founders created and defined in our Constitution. Only 44 people have held that esteemed office in the whole of our history (Grover Cleveland is counted twice in the number 45, since he is the only president to serve two non-consecutive terms). Only 44. That’s a pretty exclusive club, and we assume that those 44 people have been the best of the best, most deserving of our respect and deference—if not for their personal excellence, at least for their ability to rise to that high level. The disconnect occurs when number 44 is such a boorish, lying, malicious buffoon that he degrades not only himself but the office as well. It doesn’t feel right to say “lie” when speaking of our leader; it doesn’t feel right to say that he’s ignorant or stupid or any of the even less flattering descriptors applied to him. DJT likes to call his style “modern-day presidential,” and that’s the most frightening prospect of all: the possibility that such behavior will become the norm. We can’t let that happen!
- DJT has weakened our country’s status and our influence on the world stage in too many ways to count, but one of the most disturbing is his failure to distinguish between friends and foes. He has treated our adversaries as friends and our friends as adversaries. In his famous Oval Office video with German Chancellor Angela Merkel, he refuses a handshake and resists even making eye contact or a friendly facial expression; but just a short time later, he is photographed in the Oval Office laughing, backslapping, and shaking hands with Russian diplomats. While refusing to say a single negative word about human rights violator extraordinaire Vladimir Putin, he viciously criticizes the American media, U.S. intelligence agencies, some of our allies, anyone who didn’t vote for him or who thinks he’s an ignoramus, Hillary Clinton (still!), former FBI Director James Comey, and most recently his own Attorney General—whom HE appointed. And that’s just the short list! We’re going to need some of these people he’s been alienating, but they may not be available because of the way he’s treated them. Nervous yet?
- One of the qualities that comprises our old image of what it means to be “presidential” is the ability to speak coherently, persuasively, and sometimes eloquently to American citizens and to citizens of the world. The first thing my stepfather did years ago when he signed up for an Internet account was to search for tapes of FDR’s speeches, because he remembered the eloquence and grandeur of Roosevelt’s orations. One of my most indelible images of Bill Clinton is him speaking at Coretta Scott King’s funeral. Last in the lineup of former presidents who gave tribute to Mrs. King, he stole the audience in the first 30 seconds. Without a single note (the others had pages of them), he spoke warmly and eloquently, and the audience loved him. You can like President Obama or hate him, but you can’t honestly deny the power of his rhetoric. He may very well rank at the top of the list for eloquent oratory. Now George W. Bush could butcher a word—remember “nucular” and “misunderestimated”—but he used complete sentences, finished his thoughts, and displayed at least a passable command of facts (well, WMDs excluded). Compare those examples with this from “President” Trump: “Crimea was gone during the Obama administration, and he gave, he allowed it to get away. You know, he can talk tough all he wants, in the meantime he talked tough to North Korea. And he didn’t actually. He didn’t talk tough to North Korea. You know, we have a big problem with North Korea. Big. Big, big.” And this matters because when our president speaks, he represents us all. He has made our country a laughingstock.
- Let’s talk about tweets. Sure, President Obama did a little tweeting during his presidency, but he did not use Twitter as a platform to attack rivals, cabinet members, the press; in fact, he didn’t attack anyone. When he had a matter of business to handle, he handled it in businesslike, professional fashion—even when it required making tough calls. He used Twitter to express condolences, for light-hearted camaraderie with friends and other national leaders, you know, the normal Twitter stuff. And he didn’t do anything that the press could describe as “a tweet storm.” Ever. Anyone looking for evidence that DJT is childish, insecure, and above all unprofessional need only look at a few tweet storms. To use his familiar tweet ending, “Sad!”
- Remember the last president who held campaign rallies AFTER he was elected? Yeah, me neither. The frequency with which the media uses the word “unprecedented” is, well, unprecedented. And on that list of things we’ve never seen a president do before is continue to act like a candidate: holding rallies/aka love fests and catering only to his supporters—everyone else be damned. At this point, no one should be surprised by the extent of DJT’s ignorance; but really, it’s kind of a basic principle that presidents are supposed to serve all of the citizens of their countries, not just those who voted for them or attend rallies to chant their names. The thing that IS still shocking is the fact that DJT gets away with all of this because the Republican party has become too impotent and/or self-serving to set limits and hold him to account for his behavior.
- Presidents are always criticized; it comes with the job, and most presidents realize ahead of time that a lot of scrutiny is coming their way and prepare their strategy for handling the harsh things they’ll hear about themselves. As human beings, they’re not immune to being deeply hurt by people’s unkind remarks and even by deserved criticism; but the other 43 men who have held the office of POTUS have been adult enough to express their pain in private and for the most part to resist lashing out at their critics or publicly whining about how unfairly they’re being treated. Never in the 241-year history of our republic have we had a president depicted by cartoonists around the world wearing diapers and using a pacifier; never has the world referred to our president as a man baby. That is, never until we elected a man baby. Never have we had a president whose philosophy for handling criticism is when you’re hit, hit back 10 times harder. That’s a schoolyard strategy and has no place in the office of president. Sadly, however, the schoolyard has moved inside the White House.
- Also unprecedented for a president is DJT’s complex financial issues. His adamant refusal to allow the public to look at his tax returns—something every other president has done for the last 40 years—should be evidence enough that he has plenty to hide. People who have nothing to hide don’t hide things; they welcome scrutiny as an opportunity to prove their honesty and integrity. No other president has ever had to pay out a huge sum of money to resolve fraud charges immediately before taking office or refused to divest from his businesses or panicked when a special counsel appeared to be heading toward investigating his family’s finances. No other president has so blatantly defied the Emoluments Clause of our Constitution. No other president has entered office with as much financial baggage or as much evidence in public record of his previous monetary dealings with a foreign adversary. Yet the Republican response to all of this is just another “Meh.”
- I’m going to quote Stephen Collinson of CNN on Trump’s abuse of power, because I can’t say it nearly as well as he has: “During his six months in power, Trump has made few concessions to the conventions and protocol of an office shaped by his predecessors for more than two centuries. Though his voice now carries the resonance of a head of state, he’s more often adopted the impulsive boss’ persona that made him a flamboyant Manhattan real estate magnate and star of ‘The Apprentice.’ Now, a series of extraordinary comments and incidents [in the New York Times interview] are raising questions about whether the commander in chief has thought deeply about the institutional curbs on the power of his office, or the duties he owes as President to the rule of law, the public and to the conduct of good governance. . . . It is often difficult to be sure whether the President is pursuing a deliberate strategy to stretch his powers or is simply unfamiliar with their limits.” Yeah, I guess to be familiar with their limits, he’d have had to read the Constitution at least once; and it’s hard to read on a golf course.
- Decorum. It’s a somewhat old-fashioned word, but I think it expresses what most of us expect from a person in a position of leadership. Here’s the definition from Dictionary.com: “dignified propriety of behavior, speech, dress, etc.; exhibiting . . . dignified propriety, orderliness, regularity; . . . an observance or requirement of polite society.” President Obama oozed decorum; even President George W Bush knew how to exhibit some class and propriety. Neither of those two gentlemen surrounded himself with people who look and act like thugs and mobsters. Neither of them ogled other presidents’ wives and women attending Oval Office meetings and commented on their beauty or physical fitness. Neither of them sulked in his chair when Angela Merkel asked for a handshake. Neither tweeted attacks against critics. Possibly the biggest reason DJT sought the office of president in the first place is to overcome his lifelong feelings of rejection by “polite society” since he springs from a long line of opportunists and fast-wheeling businessmen. Sorry, Donald, but money doesn’t buy class. I miss having a president with class. I think the lack of decorum is the number-one thing that can’t be allowed to become normal for the presidency. Presidents represent us all, and they should do it with propriety; we deserve it.
I grew up believing that evil is never the final outcome, that it’s never irreversible. I’ve always believed that good can triumph over evil. Sometimes it doesn’t, but it always CAN. Now I and my fellow American citizens find ourselves for the six months past as well as the foreseeable future at the mercy of what seems to be an unconquerable evil—a horror movie, the twilight zone, an old western in which the good guy never shows up and the bad guys get away with unthinkable wrong. I’ve always believed that good, decent people—though our opinions differ on policies, methods, personal preferences—share core values which stem from our common heritage. Yet today we are so deeply divided that we can’t even agree on who our enemies are or on how a president should conduct himself or herself. I’ve always believed that Christians, though they belong to very different denominations and disagree on matters of doctrine and polity, jointly stood for goodness, love, compassion, decency, and a high standard of morality. Now many who claim that label think of a racist, misogynistic, crotch-grabbing adulterer as their “dream president.”
The question “Where’s the outrage?” comes to mind, but in reality there’s plenty of outrage all around. The problem is we’re not even outraged by the same things any more. More to the point are the questions “Where are the adults?” and “Where are the good guys?” Congress is as corrupt as the president is, so we can’t expect them to rescue our democracy from destruction. As I’ve said before, we’re like the alcoholics’ children who are being forced to grow up fast and take charge of the house because our leadership and authority figures are too distracted by their own addictions and corruption to do their jobs. In short, we’re the adults; we’re the good guys. We have to keep showing up. Action is exhausting, but the price of inaction is too high. We’re in this together, and we’re in it for the long haul. Keep up your strength and your resolve, and keep your friends close. We need each other.